Upcoming Events
SOLD OUT Black & Blue Friday
A vetted, private play party for dykes and queers
Fuck Black Friday! Crapitalism messing with your head? Maybe fuck your friends instead! Don’t shop all day, try impact play. This year we gather to give thanks (and spanks) for kinky dykes!
The Gay Barn presents Black & Blue Friday, an intimate play party for dykes and the queers who love them.
The kinky action happens on 11/28 at Sub Rosa PDX, a private playspace fully equipped with beautiful fetish furniture, multiple play areas, and toys galore.
Click below to learn more and apply! Spots are limited!
Friday November 28th, 8pm-12am
Sub Rosa PDX
Address is shared before the event
$80-$110 sliding scale, BIPOC discount available
Dirty Dyke!
Arm Wrestling Cruising Party
Call your daddy, collar up your pup, polish your carabiners, and dust off your muscles, it’s time for another Dirty Dyke at The High Water Mark!
Come get rowdy with The Gay Barn at our down and dirty dykey arm wrestling and cruising party! Wrassle your crush, your friends, your nemesis, to get the glory and win a silly prize!
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​And since this is The Gay Barn, y’all better come ready to cruise! Get out your bandanas for some old school hanky code flagging and cruise with confidence. We will have hankies for sale at the door. If you don't know what the hanky code is, read more here, or here and see our very own version below.
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It's time to get rowdy, get dirty, get wrasslin', and have some classic dyke fun!
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Fri. December 12th, 9pm-12am
Signups end at 9:45
The High Water Mark
6800 NE MLK Jr. Blvd
$12 cash cover/discount for hanky flagging and masking
The Gay Barn's Own Hanky Code
Side note: Yes, we know that some of the colors above are not historically accurate! We have our reasons. Flag traditional colors if you prefer! We mostly just want Portland folks to have an ice breaker that will get them talking and connecting (not just nonverbal cruising!). Start a conversation. Ty!
Lavender Rain
Queer Strip Club Pop-Up
Saturday December 13th, 9pm-1:30am
Peacock, 1400 SE Morrison
$13 cash atd
Dirty Dyke - SEATTLE!
Arm Wrestling Cruising Party
Seattle! We heard that y’all want to get rowdy and cruise, so we are CUMMIN’ your way!! We are beyond excited to make our Seattle debut at the iconic lesbian bar The Wildrose.
Come throw down with The Gay Barn at our dykey and dirty arm wrestling and cruising party! Wrassle your crush, your friends, your nemesis, to get the glory and win a silly prize!
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​And since this is The Gay Barn, y’all better come ready to cruise! Get out your bandanas for some old school hanky code flagging and cruise with confidence. We will have hankies for sale at the door. PS. NO TERFS!
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Sun. December 21st, 7-10:30pm
Signups end at 7:45(ish)
The Wildrose
1021 E Pike St, Seattle
$13 presale / $15 cash atd
Always more coming soon!
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About
The Gay Barn
The Gay Barn is not a place, it is an experience.
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The Gay Barn produces events and play parties for kinky homos, with an emphasis on creating dyke spaces. (*We are an events production company, not a venue!)
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Twice a year (or so), Billy and Emma host vetted, private retreat-style play parties for kinky queers, in various beautiful locations across the PNW. We create spaces for dykes, lesbians, queers and gender expansive homos to get together and get freaky (*no cis men, TERFs, SWERFs, or zesty straights). ​Each retreat play party is a unique combination of the physical environment and the amazing people who attend. But you can always count on hot homos, fun activities, sexy play, beautiful views, delicious homemade meals, and excellent vibes!
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​The Gay Barn also produces monthly, quarterly or sporadic events in Portland that never disappoint. Whether it's arm wrestling, a pop-up strip club, or play party, we bring The Gay Barn vibes to local venues! Join our mailing list to stay updated on all our latest events.
The Gay Barn is committed to anti-racism, trans inclusion, body positivity, and accessibility to our events.
About the organizers
The Gay Barn began in 2022 with two slutty, married dykes longing for an orgy that was more than just an opportunity for kink.
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We wanted to have an experience that cultivated a sense of joy, playfulness, and authenticity – with all the vibes on point. We leaned into it and started bringing people together for some truly legendary parties. - Billy and Emma