Upcoming Events
Dirty Dyke!
Call your daddy, collar up your pup, polish your carabiners, and dust off your muscles, it’s time for another Dirty Dyke at The High Water Mark!
Come get rowdy with The Gay Barn at our down and dirty dykey arm wrestling and cruising party! Wrassle your crush, your friends, your nemesis, to get the glory and win a silly prize.
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​And since this is The Gay Barn, y'all better come ready to cruise! Get out your bandanas for some old school hanky code flagging and cruise with confidence. If you don't know what the hanky code is, read more here, or here and see our very own version below. We will have hankies (and t-shirts!) for sale at the door.
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It's time to get rowdy, get dirty, get wrasslin', and have some classic dyke fun! Arrive by 9:45 to sign up for wrestling.
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Oh and please note - The Gay Barn events are ALWAYS trans-inclusive, and transphobia is not tolerated. If you hear, see or experience something and need assistance intervening, ask Emma, Billy or the door person (or each other!) for help.
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Friday May 16th, 9pm-12:30am
The High Water Mark
6800 NE MLK Jr Blvd
$10 cash at the door
Discount for masking and hanky code flagging
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Schedule runs on gay time!
9pm: Doors open, signups start!
9:45pm: Signups end!
10ish: First round!
11ish: Second round!
11:30ish: FINAL ROUND! *Winner will receive a mystery prize!
After final round till 12:30am: Table open for friendly challenges! Wrassle your friends or crush just for fun after the tournament ends.
The Gay Barn's Own Hanky Code
Side note: Yes, we know that some of the colors above are not historically accurate! We have our reasons and are not interested in arguing about whether that rewrites history or not (it doesn't, we aren't that powerful). Flag traditional colors if you prefer! We mostly just want Portland folks to have an ice breaker that will get them talking and connecting (not just nonverbal cruising!). Ty!
Dyke March - Ode to Strap
Calling all dykes! What’s inside your bedside drawer? Boil those dildos, charge up your vibrators, and get ready to strap it on. It’s time for show and tell at Dyke March - Ode to Strap!
Bounce, pounce, suck or fuck – have a sword fight, party all night. It’s Spring, and we are getting SPRUNG. We frolic, while 'tis May.
Turn your dykiest look, whatever makes you feel gay and hot af. This is a play party for dykes and the queers who love them! No TERFS! See the Sanctuary event page for party rules.
The Gay Barn will be providing nitrile gloves, condoms and lube, light snacks, sexy tunes, and our trusty St. Andrew’s Cross. Bring your own toys!
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Sunday 5/31, 8pm - close
Sanctuary, 33 NW 9th
$15 cash/$17 cc
Always more coming soon!
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Photo by Mason Rose
About
The Gay Barn
The Gay Barn is not a place, it is an experience.
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The Gay Barn produces events and play parties for kinky homos, with an emphasis on creating dyke spaces. (*We are an events production company, not a venue!)
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Twice a year (or so), Billy and Emma host vetted, private retreat-style play parties for kinky queers, in various beautiful locations across the PNW. We create spaces for dykes and gender expansive homos to get together and get freaky (*no cis men, TERFs, SWERFs, or zesty straights). ​Each retreat play party is a unique combination of the physical environment and the amazing people who attend. But you can always count on hot homos, fun activities, sexy play, beautiful views, delicious homemade meals, and excellent vibes!
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​The Gay Barn also produces monthly, quarterly or sporadic events in Portland that never disappoint. Whether it's arm wrestling, a pop-up strip club, or play party, we bring The Gay Barn vibes to local venues! Join our mailing list to stay updated on all our latest events.
The Gay Barn is committed to anti-racism, trans inclusion, body positivity, and accessibility to our events.
About the organizers
The Gay Barn began in 2022 with two slutty, married dykes longing for an orgy that was more than just an opportunity for kink.
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We wanted to have an experience that cultivated a sense of joy, playfulness, and authenticity – with all the vibes on point. We leaned into it and started bringing people together for some truly legendary parties. - Billy and Emma