Upcoming Events
Dirty Dyke! (new venue!)
Dirty Dyke is back for 2025 with a new home at The High Water Mark!
Get rowdy with The Gay Barn at our down and dirty dykey arm wrestling and cruising party! Wrassle your crush, your friends, your nemesis, to get the glory and win a silly prize.
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​And since this is The Gay Barn, y'all better come ready to cruise! Get out your bandanas for some old school hanky code flagging and cruise with confidence. If you don't know what the hanky code is, read more here, or here and see our very own version below. We will have hankies (and t-shirts!) for sale at the door.
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It's time to get rowdy, get dirty, get wrasslin', and have some classic dyke fun!
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Sat. January 18th, 9pm-late
The High Water Mark
6800 NE MLK Jr Blvd
$10 cash at the door
Discount for masking and hanky code flagging
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Schedule runs on gay time!
9pm: Doors open, signups start!
9:30ish: First round!
10:30ish: Second round!
11:30ish: FINAL ROUND! *Winner will receive a mystery prize!
Midnight-ish - Close: Table open for friendly challenges! Wrassle your friends or crush just for fun after the tournament ends.
The Gay Barn's Own Hanky Code
Side note: Yes, we know that some of the colors above are not historically accurate! We have our reasons. Flag traditional colors if you prefer! We mostly just want Portland folks to have an ice breaker that will get them talking and connecting (not just nonverbal cruising!). Ty!
Femme Menace
Calling all femmes! The Gay Barn presents Femme Menace - an intimate femme for femme dungeon play party!
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Sat. February 1st, 8pm-12am
Private location in SE PDX
$75-$100 sliding scale
BIPOC discount available
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Vetting is required, and spots are limited - so fill out your form asap to get your ticket to the newest, hottest femmes-only party!
Click below for the full event details and vetting form.
Dirty Dyke! Valentine's Day Edition
Homos Take the Lake!
We're heading back to Slag Cabin for our third annual springtime lakeside play party - Homos Take the Lake!
You will play, chill, and bond with other kinky dykes and queers over three magical nights. With a private dock for sunning and lake jumps, fire pit, plenty of private outdoor space and indoor play areas, plus an outdoor hot tub - Slag Cabin is the perfect spot for 30(ish) homos to get freaky and let loose.
The Gay Barn will bring the dungeon atmosphere for nighttime play parties, all the good food, and some fun and sexy daytime activities. Join us for a HOLEsome good time!
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Fri. May 2nd - Mon. May 5th
2 hours north of Pdx
Camping and Indoor sliding scale ticket options
BIPOC discount available
EARLY BIRD pricing - save $50 before 1/31
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Vetting is required! Click below for full event details and the vetting form.
Always more coming soon!
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About
The Gay Barn
The Gay Barn is not a place, it is an experience.
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The Gay Barn produces events and play parties for kinky homos, with an emphasis on creating dyke spaces. (*We are an events production company, not a venue!)
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Twice a year (or so), Billy and Emma host vetted, private retreat-style play parties for kinky queers, in various beautiful locations across the PNW. We create spaces for dykes and gender expansive homos to get together and get freaky (*no cis men, TERFs, SWERFs, or zesty straights). ​Each retreat play party is a unique combination of the physical environment and the amazing people who attend. But you can always count on hot homos, fun activities, sexy play, beautiful views, delicious homemade meals, and excellent vibes!
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​The Gay Barn also produces monthly, quarterly or sporadic events in Portland that never disappoint. Whether it's arm wrestling, a pop-up strip club, or play party, we bring The Gay Barn vibes to local venues! Join our mailing list to stay updated on all our latest events.
The Gay Barn is committed to anti-racism, trans inclusion, body positivity, and accessibility to our events.
Photo by Phoenix Semrau
About the organizers
The Gay Barn began in 2022 with two slutty, married dykes longing for an orgy that was more than just an opportunity for kink.
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We wanted to have an experience that cultivated a sense of joy, playfulness, and authenticity – with all the vibes on point. We leaned into it and started bringing people together for some truly legendary parties.
Billy is a butch dyke with many years' experience working in events production and sound engineering. Emma is a femme lesbian who works as business bitch, stripper, and pro domme - plus as a psychic medium and professional witch. They are both white, cis, and in their late 30's/early 40's. They met in Portland, Oregon in 2011.
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